A Life Wanderer

Sometimes you have someone in your life that you care about. Someone who has so many issues going on. You love them. You care so much about them. You want to support them.... You approach and start talking. You want to help them out of their problems. Even though you have good intentions, sometimes all she/he needs is to sort out there thoughts. Sometimes the best that you can do to someone is to leave them alone. Sometimes the best that you can do is to be passive in a conversation with him/her. How to do so? It is very simple. Identify your opinion and hold it back. Make sure you don't say your opinion. Make sure that you help them identify their own opinion first. Ask questions like: When that happened, how did that make you feel?  Would you have loved it better if they didn't do that?  What do you think is the actual reason behind you feeling like this?  Does that remind you of a previous situation?  Do you think that your reaction was what you...

Dear Smoker Me, Remember this feeling, remember the pain in the upper left part of your chest.  Remember that you felt almost chocking.  That your bronchi were very tight.  Remember how worried you were that this might turn into one of the daily patients presented to you with a malignant lesion. Until the moment that you are writing this, you are not quite sure that you won’t have this pain again. But, you can stop thinking of the patient you had today.  The patient that had a chance to quit smoking after being operated on. He got a warning first. He got a papilloma on his vocal cords. He got it excised and neglected the advice of the doctor to stay away from smoking. Less than a year, he was back with carcinoma this time.  The most impressive part of the story is that having cancer was an expected outcome. The patient and his wife were waiting for the word cancer as if they were waiting for it to be said.  I don’t want to be...