Real Support Be Like...

Sometimes you have someone in your life that you care about. Someone who has so many issues going on. You love them. You care so much about them. You want to support them....
You approach and start talking. You want to help them out of their problems.

Even though you have good intentions, sometimes all she/he needs is to sort out there thoughts. Sometimes the best that you can do to someone is to leave them alone. Sometimes the best that you can do is to be passive in a conversation with him/her.

How to do so?

It is very simple. Identify your opinion and hold it back. Make sure you don't say your opinion. Make sure that you help them identify their own opinion first.
Ask questions like:

• When that happened, how did that make you feel? 
• Would you have loved it better if they didn't do that? 
• What do you think is the actual reason behind you feeling like this? 
• Does that remind you of a previous situation? 
• Do you think that your reaction was what you were actually convinced of ?

Those questions help a confused person sort out their opinion. After all, that is a very basic requirement for a fruitful conversation.

Let's assume that your opinion is against what your someone's. Having it clarified for him/herself why he/she wants to do so, would ensure a constructive conversation between both of you. If you have a valid point for them, then it is only a matter of time and negotiation skills that they would reach the same conclusion.

But Beware!

In order to approach any topic of interest for your someone, you need to see it from their perspective and that my friend is the real challenge.

On the other hand, sometimes all what a person need is someone to listen to him rather than jump to judgement. So make sure you know how to best support your someone.